About Us

I am a 50-year-old father of 5. I was diagnosed with Aspergers just a few years ago. I always knew I didn’t exactly fit in growing up, but I never knew why.

It wasn’t until my then 6-year-old was diagnosed with AS that we began to see my Aspergers side more clearly.

This biography is part journal, and part news feed, and part awareness of what Aspergers really is.

I have seen so much stuff about Aspergers awareness, and so much of that has been NOTHING but lies and propaganda from organizations such as Autism Speaks and others. Autism Speaks advocates aborting children with Autism, and trying to ‘cure’ us as if we had cancer. I don’t need to be cured or fixed, but neither does my son. I don’t need to be put into a nicely labeled box that makes it easier for NT’s to deal with us. What I need, and what we ALL need is simply to be understood. We need acceptance; trying to ‘fix’ us is not awareness nor is it acceptance. We are not broken.

Those of us with Asperger’s must learn to fit into a world of NT’S, or neurotypicals. We don’t expect the world to change for us, and at the same time we won’t let the world change us either.

True awareness and acceptance will come when NT’s try to understand us as much as we try to understand them.

I am blessed that I have been able to fit into the NT world for the most part. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my struggles. I am even more blessed that I have my son as a mirror. I am able to see myself from my youth and I can see myself in a lot of ways that others see me now.

This has led to me working as kind of translator in my household. Kind of a bridge between my NT family and my son.

So join me as I post about our life, our passions, and our desire to just be understood as little better.

10 comments on “About Us

  1. Gigismission says:

    Aspie_Warrior: I’m desperately needing your help. I’ve not seen my daughter, two grandbabies and her wonderful husband (Aspie & so is his father) for 3 yrs. Our daughter has removed herself from her entire family due to my inappropriate way I handled the situation when I discovered our grandson’s beautiful intelligent mind but he had no desire for social touch or connection. I had asked my daughter to please read about Aspergers; at the time I hasn’t connected the similarities to her husband & his dad. She took my email to her husband and he put his foot down and told her no more of her family will be around his children!
    Come to find out from beginning of courtship, Dad’s wife (stepmother to son-in-law) would tell dad to tell his son when to buy flowers/gifts for our daughter; places to take her, etc. Courtship went fast. But step-mother was the ‘Deligator’ for almost every disagreement. If they had a fight, she would tell dad to tell son to buy diamond earrings and what to say. Thus, keeping all of these differences hidden. However, no one is aware of Aspergers (as if it were a bad thing). Step mother raised son-in-law & somehow figured out how to make things work without with her husband and his son without questioning why things are the way they are, although back then this wasn’t something teachers searched for.
    Grandson turns 5 this yr & will start school & I’m afraid it’ll be then that things will go bad; making son-in-law even madder. He is very controlling..and He hates me for even mentioning to daughter about Aspergers. He is very critcal of everyone except for his dad & two children. He went over three years being mad at his own mother because of a remark she made about his x-girlfriend many years ago.
    I have read everything I can get my hands on regarding Aspergers. Ive never seen this as being a negative issue! We are all different! My nephew is gay. I have a rare blood. These are all great Gifts..and if any were to be removed from our Earth’s Equation, we would not be conversing right now!
    Question: How do I reach my daughter to be prepared before the Board of Education step in? I’m afraid my Son-In-Law will have a melt-down? My husband has given up. We are both in our mid 50’s.

    • aspiewarrior says:

      That is a lot to absorb. What a difficult and heart breaking story. My very first, gut response is to say ‘pray for each of them’.
      How do you reach your son inlaw? He will have to see the truth himself. Be loving and supportive not aggressive or condemning.
      Feel free to email me if I can be of any help.

  2. aspertypical says:

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  3. aspertypical says:

    Hi, I absolutely love reading you blog, so I’ve tagged it for the Liebster Blog Award which helps link blogs together. I’ve written more about it here
    I look forward to reading more from you in the future! =]

  4. Hopeful says:

    I need to change an undiagnosed aspie’s decision. After 5 years of marriage and living with him, I am very confident he has this. I was attracted to the quirks. 🙂

    Not being able to effectively communicate for 5 years has been so frustrating. We’ve both had our issues along the way and reached new lows within ourselves out of this frustration. I miss the good times with him and still love him. He filed for divorce. I have limited opportunity to convince him to give us more of a try by trying to learn a new language. I will be doing the same.

    I believe in marriage and he’s my family now. I will go to great lengths for him and us, but I cannot be the only one doing the work. He was pretty far gone when he filed. He’s also bipolar and was manic. I think this combination is hard to understand. Does he make a decision when manic and stick with it from asperger’s because it’s so hard to change his mind?

    The white knight complex is how I refer to his need to save women from their troubles. I don’t like it. He’s cheated before now, otherwise I’d trust him there. He doesn’t understand he’s sending mixed signals to these women and seems to have a collection of women who have a connection with him. (meaning they’d encourage his inappropriate behavior)

    How do I effectively explain he may have asperger’s and convince him to change enough to work on his negative behavior rather than divorce? I’m assuming he has it and going from there. I’m not a doctor, but I feel I’m the only person who can give enough details from behind the scenes for his diagnosis. His own family hasn’t seen this behavior. He had to lay down after a few hours with family at a holiday, and his sister was so concerned and wondered if he was sick. I was shocked. What?? This is normal. He does this after every holiday. We just happened to be there longer than normal and he didn’t like a guest.

    I’ve read the stories of others. They don’t sound the greatest. I enjoy the positives a great deal and can relate to him quite a bit. Our relationship will never be “normal” and I see that as a good thing. We get to write our own manual for the relationship. I just wish he’d stop comparing us to his sister’s marriage. We can never be like that, and I understand why now. He just kept telling me “You don’t get it.” But I do now: I get that he will never get it. I can work with that now. 🙂

  5. Hopeful says:

    Not sure if age matters for my post. He’s 33, and I’m 32. We’ve known each other for 14 years. I feel drawn to him for some reason. Always have. He’s my mate, but I also realize if we hadn’t separated I wouldn’t have discovered asperger’s.

  6. OFelixCulpa says:

    What a great blog title! Sounds like there’s a story behind it. If so, would you mind sharing it?

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